Proven with hundreds of individuals over the last ten years, the “Personal Enlightenment & Release” (PEAR) Process is the brainchild of Olivia Stefanino (pictured right), Hypnotherapist, Reiki Master and Principal of The Quantum School.
Now available in a special 2 CD pack - complete with an explanatory booklet and special bonus track, "The PEAR Process" is the perfect tool for helping you to let go of the past – and as Olivia says, “It’s only when we’ve we let go of the past that we’re free to create the future of our dreams.
“The PEAR Process" works on the basis that our sub-conscious minds carry the memory of every single experience we’ve ever had – together with the emotions we felt at the time. These memories affect the way we approach the future and while of course, we can’t change what actually happened in the past, we can change how we feel about what happened – and that’s the key to healing.
“It’s so powerful because it puts you in the driving seat. When you stop to think about it, all of our relationships are in our heads - which means that the best place for healing our relationships is in our heads too! When we blame someone else, we’re not making them unhappy - we’re only making ourselves unhappy. When we try to punish someone else, we only manage to punish ourselves. Finding happiness is about forgiving and letting go of our own negative feelings.”
As you listen to the CDs, you’ll be taken through a process which involves feeling your anger, hurt or grief; forgiving the perpetrator or yourself; accepting what happened (although not condoning it);loving yourself and finally, letting go and choosing to be free! The CDs enable you to both heal yourself and your relationships with others.
Originally created for therapists to use with their clients, "The PEAR Process" package costs just £24.97 - less than half the price of a traditional therapy session.
Used successfully with hundreds of corporate and private clients, "The PEAR Process" is the perfect tool for helping you to let go of the past.
After all, it's only when we've dealt with the issues from our past that we're free to be able to create the future of our dreams! If we're to be happy, healthy and wealthy we have no choice but to learn to let go of our negative feelings. When you're happy, you don't waste time feeling angry, guilty or rejected. You also have no interest in playing the ‘blame game’, says Olivia Stefanino (pictured left) author of the internationally acclaimed book, "Be Your Own Guru - personal & business enlightenment in just 3 days!" and creator of "The PEAR Process".
Every time you’re unhappy, or become aware of a negative feeling in your body, you can be sure that your emotional and spiritual selves are out of kilter. When you’re unbalanced in this way, you’re not able to function as a ‘whole’ human being, which means that you’ve lost your integrity (having integrity is by definition about being ‘entire’ or ‘complete’). Loss of integrity equals loss of personal power.
Our negative feelings can be aimed towards others – or turned inwards to ourselves. Popular psychology tells us that depression is anger turned inwards. Of course, we all have to learn the lessons from our mistakes – but for the sake of our health – let alone our relationships – we have to let go and move on.
All the time that we’re holding onto negative feelings, we’re being controlled by them. Worse, there’s an all too human tendency to hold onto a perceived ‘slight’ and repeat it over and over again in our minds. While the event happened once – or maybe more often – in the past, each time we replay it in our minds we’re the ones perpetrating the abuse!
Recognise that your anger doesn’t affect someone else, it only affects you! (You may feel that you’re successfully punishing someone by remaining angry with them – but the punishment to yourself is far worse. Try feeling angry and happy at the same time! For that matter, try frowning and smiling at the same time. You simply can’t do it!)
Forgiving someone who’s hurt you isn't easy. Far from it. But until you do, your life is going to be continually affected detrimentally by someone who doesn’t even have any idea how you feel! The less you feel like forgiving, the more you probably need to do it. Remember, you’re worth it! Here’s a great question, ‘Is it better to be happy, or right?’
"The Personal Enlightenment And Release Process" (PEAR) takes the form of an imaginary conversation between you and the person who has caused you pain – and because, while doing it you’ll naturally and automatically find yourself in a slightly altered state of consciousness, what seems odd when you read about it makes perfect sense when you actually do it! And don’t worry, an altered state of consciousness is much the same thing as day dreaming!
"The PEAR Process" works for all negative patterns and problems within relationships - and involves a five step programme, which takes less than an hour to complete:
1. Expression of anger, hurt or grief
2. Forgiveness
3. Acceptance
4. Unconditional love
5. Letting go
1. EXPRESSING ANGER, HURT AND GRIEF...
Often we tend to bottle up our anger and hurt, with the result that it creates a “pressure cooker” effect on our minds and bodies. As we don’t want to look at the cause of our pain, we seek to avoid it. Yet by burying these feelings deep inside, we’re not stopping them from affecting us. While anger, grief and hurt aren’t negative feelings in themselves, when they’re unresolved, they start to turn bad, causing us to become bitter. And it’s the bitterness that gets us by eating away at our ‘essence’ which affects not only our personality but also our behaviours. Worse, over time anger, hurt and grief that remain unexpressed tend to leak out into our physical bodies, causing us physical pain. Psychosomatic pain is very real, although it has tended to be a term used to dismiss someone’s pain as ‘just being in the mind.’ A better description for psychosomatic pain would be ‘pain that originates either in the mind or soul’.
Sadly, in today’s culture, we’re usually encouraged not to express our feelings. Think about it for a moment, when someone is visibly upset, the first thing we do is to try to stop them crying by trying to make them laugh! When people cry around us it tends to make us feel bad, which is why we do all we can to cheer someone up.
You might also want to note that if someone else’s sadness triggers you to feel the same way, then you’re also storing some unresolved pain of your own. You can only get triggered by other people’s feelings if you harbour similar ones yourself.
However, it’s also important to recognise that the expression of our pain is only the first stage in the process towards resolution. Simply stirring up feelings that make us feel bad is pointless, we’ll just feel worse. In fact, wallowing in self-pity guarantees to turn you into a victim faster than Superman can change his clothes! Be aware though, that you can’t avoid the first stage of the PEAR process in a bid to avoid feeling pain. Feeling – and expressing – is the very necessary first step in the emotional healing process!
2. FORGIVENESS...
Unfortunately forgiveness isn’t something that just "washes over" you after a certain period of time has elapsed. In fact, time really isn’t a healer. Forgiveness is the healer and forgiveness is a decision. Only we can make that decision. And it’s only when we decide to forgive others - or indeed ourselves - that we become free from negativity and give ourselves the opportunity to grow. Until we choose to forgive, our negative feelings direct our behaviours – which in turn affect our energy. When we’re harbouring negativity, it’s as though there’s a dark negative, ‘cobwebby’ energy around us which stops our inner light from shining!
Forgiveness isn’t about condoning – and it’s certainly not about turning the other cheek. We forgive in order to free ourselves. We can only affect ourselves through our anger and hurt, not anyone else. For example, while you could be seething with anger, the other person could be playing golf, blissfully unaware of your feelings. If you choose not to forgive – whether it’s someone else or yourself – you condemn yourself to living in a constant state of unhappiness.
3. ACCEPTANCE...
Again, acceptance is a decision. It means that we choose to accept what is, and what has been. It also means that we choose to look at the situation as it really is, without bringing our ‘story’ into it. Acceptance doesn’t mean that we condone what happened – nor that we shouldn’t do all we can to ensure the same scenario doesn’t occur again in the future. And it’s absolutely not about making ourselves into doormats for other people! Forgiveness and acceptance go hand in hand, enabling us to jump clear of the negative ties of resentment and anger. Indeed, as we become increasingly comfortable with ourselves, we’ll be more inclined to prevent people from treating us badly.
4. LOVE...
As the Beatles would teach us, “All you need is love!” Love is the great healer. Remember, the opposite of love isn’t hate, but fear. All of our negativity arises through the ego’s fears – and love is the antidote! The kind of love I’m talking about isn’t of the ‘hearts and flowers’ variety but is to do with forgiving, accepting and appreciating someone for all of who they are, even if their behaviours aren’t the ones we’d adopt ourselves. This kind of love is unconditional and non-judgemental. When we love unconditionally, we want the best for the other person and have no envy or jealousy for another’s success. Unconditional love is the prerequisite for happiness, let alone enlightenment! If we all adopted an attitude of unconditional love, there’d be no wars, no conflict, and no poverty. As the adage goes, ‘To heal the world all you need do is heal yourself.’ I’d add that healing only occurs with the salve of unconditional love.
6. LETTING GO...
The final step is to let go, which is once again, a decision. We can't change the past but we can change how we feel about the past. Simply deciding to let go of our negativity isn’t always easy but it is the only way to liberate our psyche! When we let go of negative memories, we’re no longer driven by them – leaving us free to focus our energy on achieving our life ambitions, rather than wasting our time being bitter about the past.
As with many things in life, the first time is the hardest and the PEAR process in no exception. It’s not that the work itself is hard, it’s just that it feels like an alien way to go about things. But once you’ve applied the process to a particular situation, you’ll feel so fantastic that you won’t look back.
WARNING: if you’re suffering from serious mental health issues, you must take advice from your doctor or other appropriate professional.
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Originally created for therapists to use with their clients, "The PEAR Process" package costs just £24.97 - less than half the price of a traditional therapy session. 
